My Drive: Being Grateful and Fearless
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?.”
— Marianne Williamson
Dear lovely friends and followers,
In this blogpost I would like to highlight two major things that have massively impacted my life in a positive way, even more so in last decade. I really want to share with you all what it has brought me and how I use those two things. Of course, there’s a lot more into it, for example I owe a lot also to my morning routines and everything else that I do – and many more things that cannot be summed up in one post, but you will figure these out for yourselves too and they are definitely part of a bigger, holistic thing I call ‘life’ or ‘energy’.
Ever since I put my attention towards gratitude, I’ve seen incredible things happening. Not only so from the inside, but also at the outside, which can be seen in the manifestation of events. Let me explain.
I’m grateful for a lot of things, things that the vast majority of people would take for granted. I’m grateful for life, the fact that I’m even born and that I get the opportunity to create my own reality and seize all opportunities presenting itself along my pathway every day I wake up – and hopefully so for the next sixty, seventy years. Yes, life is short so do stuff that matters. The odds of being born are so slim, appreciating this fact should be an instant wake up call to do something productive with your life and embrace it.
I’m grateful for my family and friends. They provide me with warmth and love. I’m blessed to have such a strong family connection and we are close to each other. It’s something that is not similar for every one and I’m aware of that, even more so it’s something that I’m grateful for. I’m grateful for having had to face different challenges coping with ADHD and autism, I believe it’s still the single best thing ever happened to me.
Without those challenges, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to get to know myself so much better. To reflect upon things and to see rock bottom and then getting back up and looking to the sky and saying: “Try me”. It’s what fuels me with inspiration, drive, fire and the will to achieve anything I thought were deemed impossible. For me the journey has just started and I’m curious to where it leads me – but I’m pumped up and I feel unstoppable.
I love the unknown. I need it; that adrenaline rush. I need variety. I get bored very easily, I need to move around, jump, kick, scream, laugh, cry, love, and express myself. Ever since I was a child, I had to try new things every couple of weeks. It has brought me the curiosity to always move beyond my comfort zone and seek new opportunities. When I was younger, I was a shy kid, sometimes insecure and had a lot of limiting beliefs. Over time, I managed to twist things around, by facing adversity and smiling towards it and accepting it and finding out that the only way to change is to accept, embrace it and turn the negative into a positive. It sounds easier than done, of course, but you need to love to face challenges.
I love to try new things. For example, when I started my own business more than two years ago, it wasn’t easy. I love risks. But I never envisioned myself failing. And even if I would have ‘failed’, I would still have won. Because for me, the goal is to take action, independent of the outcome. If the outcome is positive, it’s a bonus, if it’s not, then it’s a great opportunity to learn something new from it.
I love to meet new people. I love to strike up a great conversation and go immediately three levels deeps. I love to surprise people and create an instant strong connection. It’s something that I’ve been fortunate to have been able to improve during my life. I became obsessed with it. I seek new environments because they give me great impulses. For example, joining network clubs, reaching out to people on the Internet, getting to truly know the employees at my clients. Stuff like that. Seeking environments that increase your chances to meet new people, whether it’s a grocery store, your dance class, a meetup or a party, it doesn’t matter – if you have like to meet new people and you open up yourself, that’s when opportunities show up. It’s what has been happening to me, at least. Whether it’s in business or personal. To create new opportunities for yourself you do have to take some risks.
I’m not saying I don’t have any fear at all. I think fear is good because if it scares you it’s a sign you should do it. But feeling that moment of fear, embracing it and saying “fuck it I’m going to do this” and experiencing the feeling of joy and happiness after is the best thing in the world.
WHAT DRIVES YOUR LIFE?
What are the main drivers in your life? Do you feel like you live life on your own terms? Are you aware of what impacts your life? What makes you happy? Even thinking about these questions will greatly help you to awaken yourself and opens up the possibility to awaken that fire inside you.